"Never waste your time trying to explain who you are to people who are committed to misunderstanding you."
This is, no doubt, one of the realest things I have EVER read. You know how you read those quotes, and you're like, "OMG, this is so meant for me," and it becomes your mantra for like the next 3 days until Pinterest gives you something else that's just as fabulous? (That happens to me A LOT, by the way). This quote has really resonated with me. As soon as I read it, it was like my inner self was telling myself, "That Sex & the City quote is cool and all, but THIS, this is what you needed to hear."
I've always been someone who gets along easily with others. Yes, I have my princess moments where I just want it my way, but for the most part, I hate confrontation. My fear of not fitting in and not being accepted has stopped me from doing so many great things in life, and it's something that I truly regret. All I've ever wanted was for people to understand me; to "get" me.
As I've gotten older, and now I'm 23, I've come to the realization that no one fully gets me, and probably never will. That's fine. I don't expect everyone in the world to completely understand , or agree with, my every thought, move, belief, etc. That's just not how the world works. What I'm not okay with, is the fact that some people are fully committed to misunderstanding me.
We all have at least that one person in life where, at one time or another, you swore up and down that they hated you and would want nothing more than to see you fail. That's probably one of the worst feelings in the world. It's not cool at all. It's easy to get yourself wrapped up into the hype. All of a sudden, your inner self starts agreeing with them; you start believing that you are inadequate and that you're a failure. I think it's time that we all realize that this isn't true. You are more than enough. And if someone isn't cool with you, then let it go; you can't please everyone. However, you can please yourself.
To all of you who are reading this right now, take a few moments to promise to love yourself more and to do what makes YOU happy. If you want to take a million selfies and post them on Instagram every day, then DO THAT. (Side note: I don't get why that's such a big deal anyways. Like, shouldn't we be celebrating the fact that people are confident enough to put up pictures of themselves?) If you are Kim Kardashian's biggest fan, then go KARDASHIAN KRAZY. (Maybe this just applies to me...?) If you really don't get the hype about Chipotle, then VOICE YOUR OPINION. If you've fallen for someone, TELL THE WORLD. No matter what color, race, sex, blah blah blah, you know the rest, do what makes you happy. Life is way too short to be sad, and no one should ever feel like the world is against them.
With that said, if you are reading this right now, take a few moments to promise to love others more. In no way am I a perfect person. I have belittled people before, made them feel like an outcast, made them feel like they weren't worthy. Ashamed does not even begin to explain how I feel about that. I am not proud of what I have done in the past, but I can make a conscious effort to never do that again. We all should. It is our job as human beings to give love. So, do it.
When I was toying with the idea of starting this blog, I was so hesitant. I was scared of what other people would think about what I had to say. I'm so glad that I didn't let those people stop me. I am an intelligent person with the biggest heart and a voice that needs to be heard. And the same goes for you. Don't let others dull your shine. For a long time I've been searching for a voice that I could follow; someone who could take my feelings and put them into words. I still haven't found that person, so I've decided to be that person. If I can help just one person, then I'll be happy, and that's all that matters.
Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave, tell the truth, and don't take any shit. And always remember,
YOU MATTER.
xx,
Lex
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